“Connecting” Disconnection

In today’s society, technology’s main purpose is to keep you connected. “Crack” berries and iPhone allowing the owners to check email, twitter, facebook, and chat – all from a handheld device. But that wasn’t the beginning of it.
AOL, yahoo, MSN, and many others provide messengers that allow real-time, long-distance communication – for free! I remember living in the dorms in college and using instant messengers. I was able to chat with friends back home as well as friends right down the hall. How strange is it that I was able to have a deep meaningful conversation on IM but when that same friend came in the room, the topics became shallow?
This continued into dating relationships – there was even a commercial about it. The guy drops the girl off at her house. She runs upstairs, signs on and chats with him once he gets home – the date doesn’t end at curfew. That happened to me too. Our excuse was we didn’t like talking on the phone, so IM was the next best thing. And yet, we could have deep, honest conversations through messenger, but would be fake and shallow when we talked in person.
Is this what relationships are coming to? When I realized this was happening, I had this dreaded fear that Ken and I were going to get married and I was going to have to go to the other room and IM him or email him to tell him how I felt if I was upset or had something deep or important to tell him about. That’s just not right!
Thanks to digital cameras and other internet technology. I don’t have to invite my friends and family over to see 1,400 wedding pictures. I just post them to facebook and expect them to look at them. And we call that “connected”. I can check facebook, twitter, or myspace to see what friends are up to and somehow, that makes me feel “connected”.
Is it not strange to anyone else when two teen girls (or even younger) are riding in the car together and instead of laughing and chatting, they’re texting each other? Or that you’re out with friends or on a date and they are more “connected” to people on the other side of their “crack” berry (just as addictive as crack) than they are to you and the group they are with?
There is a disconnection that comes with being too connect. Personal interactions – whether fun or confrontational – seem to be suffering due to all the connectedness.
Even when you’re alone, walking down the street, riding the bus with your iPod on, you are disconnected from the world around you. There are sources that say this generation is craving connection and relationships and yet the technology of the day forces them to stay at home and stay in their room  on their computers and deceives them into thinking they are connected.
Don’t let the “newest thing” cause you to sacrifice personal interactions and connections. Your mama always told you “don’t talk to strangers!”  You’re all grown up now – maybe you should talk to a stranger!  You might learn something – learn something about yourself!

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